Qualities of an Effective Role Model

Qualities of an Ineffective Role Model

Has achieved similar goals under similar circumstances

Has achieved very different goals under entirely different circumstances

Recognizes that great benefits were realized through successful lifestyle change

Views his or her own change effort as more trouble than it was worth

Willing to share his or her own story, including the difficult parts

Shares nothing about personal experience beyond that it was successful

Willing to take time to tell his or her full story and to establish trust

Not able to take the time to share his or her experience and to build trust

Sees change as a process

Expects change to be a quick fix

Not quick to criticize or to judge

Immediately makes character judgments

Acknowledges that change can be a challenge

Says that change is easy

Gives someone permission to create his or her own path to success

Recognizes only one way to success: "my way"